Dating Control & Responsibility

How would you like to have more control over your love life? If so, you’ll have to start being more responsible for your own actions.

Here's the magical formula of life: Control = Responsibility.

The two are inseparable. If you want more power, then you’ll have to be more responsible. It's as simple as that. If you want to demand more, then you must first start by GIVING more. You must first understand that YOU alone are what make you ATTRACTIVE or UNATTRACTIVE.

Every action you make will either make a girl like you more or like you less. It's not your luck, it's not the environment, it's not "the other guy"…it's YOU. Nobody but YOU. Listen. If you want to have more control over your love live, then you better start accepting responsibility for your own problems NOW.

For example...

1) If your girlfriend has left you for another guy, don't blame the other guy for stealing her. It's YOUR own fault for losing her. If she was REALLY attracted to you, NOBODY could have stolen her away from you.

2) If women always keep telling you that they like you as a "friend", don't whine about it. It's YOUR own fault for not developing enough chemistry with women.

3) If you never go out and meet women, then don't complain about not having a girlfriend. It's your own fault for not expanding your social circle.

4) If you can't hold a conversation, don't whine about your shyness. PRACTICE your conversation skills.

5) If you don't know how to attract women, then LEARN.

The moment you neglect your responsibilities as a real MAN, your love life is going to suffer!

Sexual Tension

If you're going after a girl but she's not responding to you the way you would like her to, chances are you are lacking sexual tension.

So what is sexual tension?

It is the subtle force that connects two people together. You know how when you first meet a girl and there's something that draws you towards her...but at the same time there's a great deal of "uncertainty" in the air because you're not sure if she feels the same way about you? In time, this tension grows stronger and stronger until you can't help but to think about her day and night. The sexual tension then amplifies into LUST and you feel like you HAVE to spend more time with your girl.

Now...wouldn't it be great if you could get a girl to experience the SAME feelings towards YOU?

Of course it would.

Unfortunately, most guys are afraid of using sexual tension to attract women. They are afraid of raising this tension because of the "uncertain feelings" attached. To these guys, this tension feels foreign...or even uncomfortable. They are afraid that if they raise it any higher and risk "offending" the girl the girl they like, they will lose all chances with her.

Garbage.

If you build up sexual tension with a girl, she's going to become VERY attracted to you. For example, a girl could be acting "pissed" and hitting you on the arm when you tease her. But an hour later, she could be begging for your phone number.

Now...tell me...would you rather have a girl who feels NOTHING for you...or a girl who feels LUST and PASSION for you? I think the answer is clear.

So how do you develop sexual tension?

1) Think of sexual tension as a fishing line. When she expects you to pull her in, give her slack to let her swim free. This will throw her off balance and make her swim closer to you.

(Application: Be a challenge and NOT do the things she expects.)

2) Then you SUDDENLY jerk back the line and throw her off-balance again. This will sink your hook deeper into her, making it harder for her to escape.

(Application: After telling her that you just want to be "friends", you suddenly grab her hand.)

3) Keep this tension up, and reel her in slowly. Eventually, she'll be yours to catch.

External Factors

External "Ex" Factors represent all the forces of any obstacles that might have a negative impact on your love life.

1) Your age gap

2) A competitor (like another guy)

3) Your height

4) Your bad looks

5) Your skin color

6) Your lover’s childhood trauma’s (Rape, abuse, etc)

7) Distance

8) Fear of commitment

9) Religion

10) Family

The good news is that attraction can overcome ANY Ex-Force. Imagine an old-fashioned balance scale. On one side is an Ex-force exerting on you. On the other side is a woman’s attraction for you.

If her attraction for you is stronger than the Ex-Force, she’ll date you. Otherwise, she will reject you or break up with you.

Note that you CANNOT change the amount of Ex-Force exerted on a woman because it is always constant. Whatever your “problem” is, it is out of your control.

For example…

You can’t grow more hair.

You can’t beat up the “other guy”.

You can’t become younger.

You can’t grow taller.

You can’t change your skin color.

You CAN, however, change the amount of attraction a woman has for you. At the end of the day, attraction cuts through EVERYTHING, which means you should ignore whatever you can’t change and focus on ATTRACTING women instead. If a girl is attracted to you enough, she won’t care about your looks, your height, or your age, get it?

Is Attraction A Factor?

The Attraction Factor is the most important factor of smart dating. In order for a woman to want to go out with you, she must FEEL attraction for you. This is a simple concept that most guys brush off as “common sense”.

Here’s a quick quiz to test if you understand what “attraction” really means.

1) Do you flirt with women instead of buying them gifts?

2) Do you always focus on a woman’s attraction towards you rather than your own attraction towards her?

3) Do you like saying “no” to a girl you like?

4) Are you an openly sexual person?

5) Do you present yourself as a challenge to women?

6) Do you usually have most of the power in a relationship or courtship?

7) Do you focus on what she does instead of what she says?

8) Do you think that lust or primal attraction is important in a courtship?

9) Do you enjoy raising the sexual tension even though the feeling of uncertainty may feel uncomfortable to you?

10) Do you have the guts to walk away from the girl you love?

If you have answered “no” to any of the questions listed above, you still have a lot of things to work on before you can have true success with women.

Oral Sex - Tips To Pleasure A Woman

General Tips for Orally Pleasing a women:

• Continue to stimulate your partner using the techniques you have learned in the previous posts. You can bring your partner to orgasm several times if you desire. Most women may need a short break between orgasms. So after you have given her an orgasm wait 30-90 seconds before you resume stimulation. During this period you can come up for air and kiss her on the lips or stay down between her legs and kiss lick and suck on her inner thighs.
• Almost all women say that their favorite oral technique that they have had done to them is when their lover also stimulates them with his fingers as well at the same time as performs oral sex on them.
• If she starts pushing her pussy against your mouth harder that means she wants more and is in enjoying it. If she pulls away she may be too sensitive or you may be providing too direct stimulation too soon. You can continue to use other techniques or stay with this one. When you find a techniques the really drives her wild stick with it! You must learn how to read her movements, her breathing and her sounds.
• You can add more direct stimulation to any of the techniques above by pulling the clitoral hood back and stimulating the exposed clitoris directly. You do this by gently pulling back the skin covering her clitoris with your thumb or finger.
• Ask your partner what she likes best and how you can bring her the greatest pleasure.